Know yourself... don't love yourself

People say that to love someone else you need to love yourself first.

Cock-N-Bull! The fact is exactly reverse.

Tell me who knows a person better than oneself? But if we know ourselves correctly and are truthful to ourself and not habituated to bluffing ourselves into hellucinating that we are good, we should all know how bad we are?

How many men would not have imagined infidel at mere look over a desirable female! How many ladies may not have ever imagined inappropriate postures when lured, voluntarily or otherwise! Dont we know what dark thoughts go on within us when no one else can read them? How many of us can claim to have not let an inappropriate thought not cross our mind? And how many of us have not excused ourselves into believing that by thinking we are not sinning?

In fact, we cheat ourselves into accepting the dark side of ourselves as natural influence. We may not sin, but given a chance we would have. How many people realize this fact about themselves? Only an honest person would recognize how ugly he is and how many dark secrets he has to guard.

In India, a Vidhur (widower) does not go to Smashaan (crematorium) when his wife expires because socially if he goes to Smashan for lighting pyre of his wife, he would not be considered as a candidate for remarriage by our society.

Imagine: The wife with whom he has spent years, with whom he has had the closest physical intimacy possible except that of a child being in mother's womb, a wife who had vowed to go with her husband and vice versa in every walk of life at the lagna vedi (marraige fireplace), vowed togetherness mantra (holy recitals), cannot even accompany her on her last journey out of this world!

Technically, he is right, these recitals talk of walking together in every walk of life, not in death.

So, if a person knows himself correctly and has the spiritual understanding of the right and the wrong, knowing all the wrongs that a person does in life, how can he love himself?

Ask yourself, do you love yourself?
Then ask again, have you been truthful?
The answer may be an eye-opener...